You know I like control.
Yes, I’m a recovering “ONE-OF-THOSE-MOMS”.
But while it’s fine to give clear orders in the resus bay, my kids have helped me realize that orders have natural consequences at home.
When I go into order and control mode, I have less fun as a mother. And it causes me stress when I feel that I am the coordinator of my household’s events.
So one of the habits I’ve started to track in my journal is how I can do one small thing to pay attention to each of my kids and one small way to give them power. And by power I mean the autonomy to make a decision that I won’t veto.
Oh wow!
What a game changer!
My daughter paired plaid leggings with a sparkly baby blue unicorn dress and a head band with cat ears.
OK. I’m more of a monochrome minimalist, but hey. She was so happy! And she rocked the look with so much confidence! Okay then!
My son ate too much sugar and then vomited.
OK. But now he takes it easy when it comes to junk food. Autonomy for the win then! And I didn’t have to actively intervene in any way!
It soon became fun for me to find ways to give them power and attention. And when I wrote down what I did in my journal, it felt like a real win.
Question: “Is there someone in your life who could use some emotional deposits? Who will it be and what will be the deposit?”
