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The first step to overcoming overwhelm is to get diagnostic clarity. After all, if you’re feeling overwhelmed because you hate your boss and are working 60-hour weeks, this is a very different scenario from feeling overwhelmed because you are in debt or if you’re raising a newborn without help. Of course, many factors can tangle […]
I recently had a chance to speak about the motherhood overload at rounds. It was a really lovely conversation on an important topic. Illusory Effect. Easy-nos. Difficult-nos. How to ask for help when you first become a mother. Whether you should sleep or clean the kitchen. We discussed it all! And here are the questions […]
Here’s how I like to reflect on my life at the end the year–I sit down and look through all of the photos I’ve taken on my smartphone since January 1st. Do you want to try this too? If so, get out your phone and start from January 1, 2025 and look at each image. […]
In Vaden’s book, he talks about a framework on how to spend your time called the “focus funnel.” At the top of the funnel are all of the possible tasks you could choose to do. He says that people who “multiply their time” (meaning, they preferentially do SIGNIFICANT things today that free up their time […]
My husband told me that I am very negative. Naturally, I didn’t believe him. But I decided to write down all of my negative thoughts in a notebook just to show him, “ha! I’m not critical! I’m just honest…” Well, well… The first day I counted 38 negative thoughts. Some were quite nasty. Many were […]
Whenever I want to change a part of my life, I ask myself these 4 questions: What are my current beliefs/thoughts? What do I need to accept must change? What would the ideal situation look like? What is my strategy to get there? Earlier, I shared how I was able to engineer more freedom into […]
When I was a medical student on team medicine, the attending, Dr. Rob Fowler said “people like Team Medicine…because everyone suffers together.” Haha. Love it. And it’s so true. I remember ordering dinner for the team from Spring Rolls and sharing late night snacks with my fellow trainees…finishing our consults, learning some new content, and […]
In 2012, at that moment in the emergency department when I felt I had screwed up my life choices, I would never have guessed that I would ever be on the other side of burnout. I didn’t know much about personal development, core values, or habits. I didn’t even know how to take care of […]
Growth. You might hate it. You might resist it. You might feel as if “you don’t have time for it.” But you know you need to grow if you’re going to get out of burnout. This is non-negotiable. As non-negotiable as acknowledging Colin Firth as the definitive Mr. Darcy. Don’t try to argue with me […]
Your chronotype describes the patterns of time that you naturally feel most sleepy and wakeful. When you are faced with an important deadline, what time of the day tends to be your most productive and energetic? Do you thrive best at night time when everyone else is asleep? Does the golden hue of your reading […]
