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To summarize it, this is how I map out the approaches to your great life. So, the “easy-no” is where you want to optimize efficiency. The “difficult-no” is where you want to understand your ego, internal validation and shame resilience. The “easy-yes” is where you want to harness the power of rituals and habits with […]
I’ve told you before how much I hate public speaking. I still get a sense of dread when I have to give a talk. And even more than public speaking, I hate promoting myself. And still, every day I search for opportunities to speak in public and promote the work I do as a coach. […]
If you are like most doctors I know, it’s hard to imagine a life outside of the walls of medicine. I get it. It’s a lot of work to be a doctor. It’s a lot of work to maintain your knowledge and practise safely. Just like it’s a lot of work to be a mother/primary […]
When I was an emergency medicine resident, people asked me “why are you interested in aerospace medicine?” When I was in business school, people asked me “why is a doctor studying business?” When I was in photography school, well…no one really cared what I did for a living in photography school. When I was in […]
For your great life to occur, it’s important to understand the similarity between saying no out of fear and saying yes out of obligation. When you say yes out of a sense of obligation, really this is a “difficult-no.” But when you say no out of fear, really you’re dealing with a “difficult-yes.” In both […]
One summer, I was invited to six (6) weddings! Three of those weddings were on the same day. Luckily, I wasn’t close to one of the inviters (an “easy-no”), but I really wanted to attend the other two weddings happening on the same day. Technically I attended five weddings that summer, but in reality I […]
The “easy-yes” are the things you want to nurture and protect. It’s clear for you to say “yes, I want more of this in my life!” In order to protect the “easy-yes” quadrant of your life, you need to develop discipline. And in order to develop discipline, you have to improve your habits. If you […]
What does your life look like when things are going well? More often than not, you are doing things on your “easy-yes” list. Are you getting consistent good quality sleep? Laughing and playing with your kids? Meditating? Exercising? Journalling about your day? Having coffee conversations with your father? Doing creative work? Going for a walk […]
When I was an emergency medicine resident, I was very keen on aerospace medicine. I attended adult space camp (!). Not once, but twice. I did an elective at NASA. I watched the film Apollo 11 in historic Mission Control (where “Houston, we have a problem” was first heard). I flew an experiment on a […]
What exactly is a “difficult-no”? A “difficult-no” is something you’re holding onto that you now wish to let go. You have a sneaking suspicion that this thing/task/relationship/role/identity no longer serves you, but for whatever reason, you still hold onto it. Perhaps it’s the need to be seen as a calm and organized mother. Perhaps it’s […]
