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As a mother and a doctor, I know you are sometimes worried and afraid, overwhelmed and overstretched. But your families depend on you to be their foundation. You're imperfect. And that's okay.
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Hmmmm….. I’m actually not bothered when people tell me no. I am also not bothered by saying no to someone’s request. But I know lots of people who find this hard to do. The first question that comes to mind is: “is it so bad to disappoint others?” Because that’s a given, right? If someone […]
The other day, one of the senior emergency residents (who is very comfortable with cardiology, resuscitation, respirology, ICU, and advanced procedures), admitted during a shift that his knowledge of orthopedics was “not great.” He asked his staff to go over xrays with him and walk him through a basic radial gutter slab–something that a third […]
I recently had a chance to speak about the motherhood overload at rounds. It was a really lovely conversation on an important topic. Illusory Effect. Easy-nos. Difficult-nos. How to ask for help when you first become a mother. Whether you should sleep or clean the kitchen. We discussed it all! And here are the questions […]
Do you ever mutter under your breath: “Why can’t people just get their work done?!!” Why is it that you stay to finish the job take on extra work while those around you struggle to complete even simple tasks volunteer to help out at the school event despite having only had 4 hours of sleep […]
When I was in high school, I went camping in the Ganaraska Trail in Ontario. For three days, we wandered in the bushes following the blazes on the trails. We set up camp fires. I slept on a tree branch on a small pond island. I heard a beaver slip into the water at night […]
The good enough mother is both “good” and “enough.” I remember saying this to a small group of women. We were discussing how difficult it was to say no–EVEN WHEN WE WANTED TO SAY NO. More than one of us started to cry. When did “good enough” stop being good enough? If I saw you […]
Disclaimer: I don’t claim to have all the right answers on this topic. I want to share some tips that worked for me, but I’d appreciate any feedback from you all! Please leave comments about what has worked for you. The other day, I overheard an interesting conversation between two women in a café. One […]
I have seen many women recommend the book “Fair Play” by Eve Rodsky. Since I liked the summary points of the book (fair warning–I have not read the whole book yet), I invested in the deck of fair play cards. The cards are designed to make the invisible load of tasks needed to run a […]
As a coach specializing in helping female physicians struggling with balancing meaningful work, family life, and well-being, by far the commonest question asked of me is “how can I feel less burnt out?” As if it was as simple as: giving a checklist a neat strategy or a prescription for change. As with most things […]
Hmmmmm….. My kids will tell you “Mom will never get rid of her coffee.” And…they’re sort of right. What goes better with a great book than a steaming fresh cup of coffee? Add cozy socks and a fresh snowfall and a house all to myself–well, I’m in a dream world right now because I can’t […]
