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Mindset

“objections as fears in disguise”

It’s no secret that you’re burnt out. What’s also clear is that KNOWLEDGE alone is not enough to get you out of burnout. So what’s happening here? Why is there a delta between your present actions and your long-term wishes (which are presumably, to have great health, strong fulfilling relationships, and a purpose-filled career)? After […]

Mindset

“what’s olive oil soap got to do with it?”

The other day while I was exercising, I watched Duchess Meghan make olive oil soaps by hand in her craft shack with Jay Shetty and his wife, Radhi. Then Radhi showed everyone how to make a spice-laden vegan curry and naan. I had a sudden desire to be “crafty” and to learn all about ayurvedic […]

Mindset

“you get what you want when you surrender…”

You all know how much I love journalling for self-insight. I recently attended an amazing memoir writing workshop. The man hosting the workshop said something that reframed how I now view writing (journalling in particular), motherhood, and in general–living my life. He said that the key to writing a good memoir is to write without […]

Coaching Tools

“multiply your time for the easy-no tasks”

In Vaden’s book, he talks about a framework on how to spend your time called the “focus funnel.” At the top of the funnel are all of the possible tasks you could choose to do. He says that people who “multiply their time” (meaning, they preferentially do SIGNIFICANT things today that free up their time […]

Mindset

one goal at a time

I know what you’re thinking–ONE GOAL?! As a mother and a doctor (aka a professional-rapid-sequential-task-finisher), this might seem strange. This might seem as if it goes against your very being. But hear me out. Have you ever really accomplished more than one thing WELL in any given day? Maybe your peak hours were spent at […]

Mindset

the sounds of morning

What I enjoy most about the sabbatical surprised me. I thought the best gift would be great sleep (and that’s definitely part of it–this shift worker is sleeping with full-on REM and loving it!). But having the gift of slower mornings has helped me recognize all of the small things I’m grateful to experience every […]

Mindset

“lessons from the Wild Robot”

If you’ve watched “The Wild Robot,” I’m sure you’ve been touched by the story of Roz, a robot stranded on a remote island who raises Brightbill (a gosling orphan), after accidentally killing his family. The movie has many touching scenes. One interaction that I loved: Roz: “I do not have the programming to be a […]

Mindset

“control = perfectionism”

Control is at the root of my unwillingness to ask for help. And control is a function of perfectionism. Perfectionism exists because of a worry of how others will judge me. So that leads me to lesson three of lessening the mental load: no one (whose opinions matter to me) will judge. And here’s the […]

Mindset

“acknowledge that others are pitching in”

There are lots of things I don’t enjoy doing: Killing centipedes. Raking leaves. Car servicing and cleaning. Visiting some relatives. Hosting big gatherings. Taking the kids to get haircuts. Cleaning the BBQ. Moving carpets under heavy furniture. Icy arena hockey practices. Swimming in chlorinated pools. Washing stinky sports gear. And do you know how I […]

Mindset

“make the list of non-negotiables really short”

As a busy mother and professional, you’re used to handling a lot of tasks and roles. Even if things aren’t done efficiently, there are still many tasks on your “to-do-list” pile that you tend to own. Am I right? For most of my life, I’ve been the “responsible child.” When I got married, I naturally […]