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Do you have a mentor or a coach? Do you know the difference? A mentor is someone who is a few steps further than you who can guide you to be where they are one day. In short, your goals are similar. Think about someone who mentors you to be a top notch researcher or […]
My husband told me that I am very negative. Naturally, I didn’t believe him. But I decided to write down all of my negative thoughts in a notebook just to show him, “ha! I’m not critical! I’m just honest…” Well, well… The first day I counted 38 negative thoughts. Some were quite nasty. Many were […]
Nelson Mandela once said, “I never lose. I either win, or I learn.” Let that sink in. It’s so powerful. Do you have something in your past that keeps you stuck? A belief? A trauma? A choice? Some random comment someone said about you? It’s easy to believe that the past defines you, that what […]
Whenever I want to change a part of my life, I ask myself these 4 questions: What are my current beliefs/thoughts? What do I need to accept must change? What would the ideal situation look like? What is my strategy to get there? Earlier, I shared how I was able to engineer more freedom into […]
You know I like control. Yes, I’m a recovering “ONE-OF-THOSE-MOMS”. But while it’s fine to give clear orders in the resus bay, my kids have helped me realize that orders have natural consequences at home. When I go into order and control mode, I have less fun as a mother. And it causes me stress […]
In his book the 5 am Club, Robin Sharma talks about how some of the most successful people in the world wake up early in order to prioritize healthy habits that begin their day in a positive way. He gives a simple example of waking up one hour earlier than usual and dedicating that hour […]
If I had known how destructive shift work was for my sleep and health, I don’t think I would have chosen to be an emergency doctor. And while you might not be in emergency medicine, you’re probably still working late hours, doing call at the hospital, or bringing your work home with you. All doctors […]
When I was a medical student on team medicine, the attending, Dr. Rob Fowler said “people like Team Medicine…because everyone suffers together.” Haha. Love it. And it’s so true. I remember ordering dinner for the team from Spring Rolls and sharing late night snacks with my fellow trainees…finishing our consults, learning some new content, and […]
By default, I think I’m right. And in line with this belief, naturally I try to control how people around me behave and think. If you believe this doesn’t apply to you, ask yourself if you’ve ever done any of these things: Escalated an argument with a trainee consultant by saying “fine–I want to speak […]
When I first heard Brené Brown talk about shame, I did not identify shame as being the root cause of my burnout. After all, control is just my way of being efficient. And sure, I criticize and blame other people (when they do stupid things). Okay, and yes I compare. But who doesn’t? I’m working […]
