Dear Fellow Mother-Doctors:
Do you ever feel trapped by the stories you tell yourself? Like, if YOU don't do the job it won't get done?
Are you tired of being burnt out and soul-crushed? Do you dread going to work sometimes, but are not sure why? Maybe you shoulder the endless tasks of navigating an underfunded healthcare system without thanks from your patients? And then go home and handle the invisible tasks of childcare?
Do you ever feel you have to juggle all of your roles and make it look effortless? But then feel as if you're failing every single day?
Maybe you bring your anger home?
shame?
Do you suffer from imposter syndrome?
Do you control and perfect to avoid the pain?
Do you change what you say and do to try and fit in with the crowd?
Is your self-worth tied to the lines on your CV?
Do patient complaints make you wonder if you're meant to be in medicine?
overwhelm?
Do you feel expectations to be a team player at work, be a supportive partner, raise kind children, and care for aging parents?
And look good at the same time?
Do you have trouble with saying no?
stuck?
Do you long for a piece of the day just for yourself?
Do you want to explore a side passion outside of medicine, but don't know how to start?
Do you want to find purpose and meaning in your days again?
ready?
Are you ready to lead your own personal change, but nothing you tried has worked so far?
Do you need to find the courage to be seen?
Do you need help to implement a system of change?
Are you ready to step into your unique vision of success?
I was in the same place as you. I remember the pain of unhappiness and empty days. I dreaded going to work. I was angry and irritable. I felt that my patients were "things to clear off the waiting list" rather than people who deserved my compassion and care.
I lacked self-compassion. I didn't experience joy. I couldn't give to others since my own bucket was empty. No one talked about physician wellness then.
But I'm no longer in that space. I helped myself. I know that burnout recovery is possible. Now I'm going to help you find your own way. I help mother-doctors put themselves first and thrive.
During the Covid-19 pandemic, many of us suffered moral injury in silence.
We saw a chronically underfunded healthcare system crumble. And we were asked to fill the gaps. We were asked to make something out of very little every single day. We shared our anger and pain in stories, op-eds, and protests. But has anything changed?
I truly believe the healthcare system will change--slowly. Maybe not within my time and maybe not within yours. But good changes surely come when we first change. If one doctor treats 10000 patients per year, what kind of changes will we see when we start to put our needs first?
You have children. You're responsible for raising them to be healthy, emotionally strong, and confident. They see what you do. They learn from your actions. What difference will it make for your children to see that you took charge of your own future?
You first.
Everyone else after.
Are you ready to take that powerful step together?
6 Pillars to Win as a Mother-Doctor
Mindset Analysis
It's painful when our ideas and beliefs clash with our lived experiences. The hard work begins with observing our mindset and deciding what shifts and what stays.
Mind Trash and Shame
The past shapes us, but sometimes we fail to learn its lessons. Imperfection is normal. You will learn how to accept who you are now and that you are always changing and learning to be better.
You will learn how to be shame resilient.
Establish Healthy Boundaries
We will apply a "simplicity filter" to your life. You will learn when and how to say no so you can say a big YES to what fills you with joy.
Curiosity and Vulnerability
This is where you will visualize your best future and take the initial steps to get there. You will learn how to strengthen your courage muscles and harness the power of fear to grow into your best self.
Clarify Core Values
Who are you without even trying? You will identify your core values.
You will learn to express these core values at work and with your relationships,
Fail, Rise, Learn, Climb, Repeat
When you choose to change, you can't control the outcome. That is scary, but also amazing. You will learn how to accept this fact and get back up. Support combines with accountability for great personal growth.